First Date Anniversary #48!!

Anybody else out there celebrate the anniversaries of your first date? We’ve celebrated all except one – I don’t recall what was going on that year, but I was gutted to realize we’d missed it. I mean, it’s exactly two weeks after The Husband’s birthday… I guarantee, we’ve never missed it since!

The Husband and I met during an acting class we attended on Hollywood Boulevard. Poor, young 20-somethings, we chose the Howard Johnson’s restaurant down the street for our first date. Below, is a picture (couldn’t find a photographer to credit) that I believe to be the actual restaurant, torn down years ago, because it was right near the Capitol Records building. And that was the beginning of our Happily Ever After!

PS-I had a tuna melt and I still own the outfit I wore that night. ‘Course, it will never fit me again ~ LOL!

This year, we decided to take a stroll around The Hilbert Museum in Orange, CA, to kick off the celebration. They had a few new exhibits ~ it’s always a delight to wander around and enjoy the artworks.  Hope you’re all ready to see A LOT of great art!

Here are the highlights:

Emigdio Vasquez, born and raised in Orange County, not far from The Hilbert, immortalized his barrio, friends, and loved ones in his work, including portraits and murals.

Adeline Gutweiler, an early supporter and collector, who he credited with launching his career.

Tools of the trade and personal belongings.

When I saw this one from across the room, I thought it was a photograph!

He loved to paint memories of his early years. The figure on the left in red is the artist among friends.

Orange County barrios from the 50’s and 60’s.

This painting of women packing oranges at the Santiago Growers Association packing house, sketched prior to his death, was discovered and finished by his daughter, Rosemary Vasquez Tuthill. The women depicted include two of Rosemary’s aunts.

This is my favorite of Vasquez’s work. It epitomizes The Elder in any society and reminds me of my grandfather.

Laguna Beach Artist Joan Gladstone pays homage to The Mother Road, Route 66, celebrating it’s 100th birthday.

And my favorite of maybe all The Hilbert exhibits we’ve seen, the wildly imaginative art of Ralph Allen Massey. He’s not shy about the fact that he “appropriates” the style of artists he admires, while making the works his own. What I especially liked about this exhibit is all of the information about the works are artist statements from the man himself at 88 years young!

The artist he’s “appropriating” had done extensive research on Roman gladiators and owned several pieces of armor and accessories from which to draw inspiration.

Books and strong women! My idea of great art!

He liked to combine similar art just because he liked them… Here he uses the magazine artwork of one of my favorite artists, with whom I share the same birthdate, Maxfield Parrish, and a fashion illustration, both with polka dot motifs.

My sci-fi guy!

He said he used the laughing Felix the Cats to inject some humor into the serious subject matter.

This was a favorite of The Husband’s. Also, some of his artwork incorporated holes in the board on which they’re created. In the upper left, by Alice’s elbow, is one example, plus several others in this work that may not be as easy to see.

He also does sculptures. A soloist with the American Ballet Theatre, he admired Barrie’s athleticism.

Art Nouveau and Johnny Rockets.

Several of these works juxtaposed the beginnings of flight with our future in space.

His version of a famous still from the Marx Brothers’ A Night At the Opera. I believe the man in the upper right is the artist himself and the detritus in the foreground are items from his studio.

The Husband is a Poe fan.

And here are a couple of artworks I liked from exhibits across the courtyard, in the second Hilbert building.

These colors are amazing! It’s what Van Gogh could have done if Xanax had been invented sooner.

An interesting take on Hopper’s Nighthawks.

After our art immersion, we treated ourselves to lunch at Appleby’s with gift cards my BFF, Zan, gave us for Christmas in 2019 (!). I guess we tend to hold on to gift cards for special occasions ~ last year we finally used a $50 Visa card we won on a trip to San Antonio in December of 2019 for our 45th wedding anniversary dinner!

The Husband with his strawberry and chicken salad.

Chicken, broccoli, and garlic mashed potatoes. Nom!

Caramel apple pie a la mode and two spoons, please!!

Happy Anniversary to us!

Let us know how you celebrate special dates in the comments!

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*Catching Up*

Holy Hearts and Shamrocks, Batman! It’s March!

Life’s been lifin’, so it’s been a while, kids. I think I’ll start with our latest museum visit and promise to catch up on reading, watching, and places we’ve been in posts I’ll get out to you soon.

I’m looking out the window right now and the trees are swaying and dancing, like fans at a Springsteen concert! It’s uber windy out there, so no walking at the park today. We did some miles on the treadmill at the gym this morning.

Yesterday morning, we managed to get out to our first writer’s meeting of the year (we were sick in January, then a downtown parade blocked our path in February ~ yes, we might have gotten there through back streets but… we didn’t 😊). So glad we got there today. Elle Jauffret, former lawyer and current mystery writer, gave an excellent talk on finding the “spine” of your book (the dramatic question that must be answered), how to keep that question top of mind throughout the story, and how to integrate different genres together organically.

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RELAX!!!

There are plenty of reasons to kick 2025 to the curb ~ heinous politics, health issues, book not published ~ but we also went to the first protests we’d ever participated in, made enjoyable use of our annual passes to the Discovery Cube, saw our friend, Robb Tracy, in THREE live shows, and walked thousands of steps at a nearby lake and at Knott’s Berry Farm. The Husband retired this year and that’s been an adjustment for both of us (I retired in 2022) but the freedom of not having to schedule around his job has been awesome. In short, 2025 coulda been worse so I’m grateful to make it out fairly unscathed.

Yeah, I’m a few days late to the New Year Party but it’s okay, especially since my word for this year is…

R*E*L*A*X

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What Mare Read in 2025

This year I read 79 books/novella’s, down quite a bit from last year. I spent a lot of time during the late summer and fall editing the book I’m writing, so that obliterated a chunk of my reading time… When I decided to do another revision on the book, all those hours spent on editing seemed like a waste, but I learned a lot about my own writing foibles, so not a total squandering of my time. The revising continues…

I keep lists of books I want to read everywhere ~ one on my phone Reminders list, one on the phone Notes, plus an Excel spreadsheet ~ LOL! The Reminders list is titled B&N and comes in handy when Barnes & Noble runs their 25% off pre-order sales, which are almost as exciting to me as the Scholastic book sales at school many moons ago. I love the anticipation of getting a new book in the mail weeks or months later ~ it’s always good to have something to look forward to! 😊 The 25% preorder sale is on now until 1/1/26, for B&N Rewards members.

I ran through the two Barnes & Noble book journals (See the 2024 post) I used to record and review the books I read, so I bought a pretty notebook (below, right). The journal only allowed one page per book, with specific information to fill out and a star rating system ~ not much room to write my thoughts. Since the notebook I’m using now is just simple, lined pages, I can write as much as I want about each book without squishing my writing and sometimes adding sticky notes. Loving the freedom! YAY!

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A Christmasier Christmas Than Usual!

Merry Christmas to all who celebrate! Happy Thursday for those who don’t! And thank you for your service to anyone who has to work today!

Welcome to the last of The Five Blogs of Christmas!

The few things we’ve done for Christmas in the last bunch of years have mainly been performative – I insist on a fresh wreath inside our front door for the beautiful smell and our annual trek around the crazy Christmas light neighborhood (Click here full post). Holiday music isn’t allowed until after Thanksgiving. Our only stab at decorating is a tiny pink tree that keeps its ornaments year-round.

But this year, I started the music on November 1. And a four-foot tree, woven with white lights, charmed us at a thrift store. All it needed was Hector, my 48-year-old furry angel topper (Click here for full post), so I thought.

But I found a few ornaments in a closet, one especially dear to my heart – Santa’s list, bought when we were first married, includes both of our names!

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Holiday Movie Recommendations

The fourth of The Five Blogs of Christmas is all about the movies.

I’ve been watching Christmas movies all through December, some new, some vintage. I’m leaving out the ones I gave less than four stars, ‘cause I sure can’t recommend duds! And remember, just like holiday books, it’s okay, even encouraged, to watch seasonal movies all year long!

Champagne Problems  2025

When Sydney is sent to Paris to secure the purchase of a prestigious family-owned champagne company, she spends an uncharacteristic night with a French book lover. Of course, he turns out to be the son of the owner of the company. But it’s not an advantage as she competes against a tough businesswoman, a German businessman (who gives a very different perspective on Die Hard, which is seen as a tragedy in Germany), and a sweetly flamboyant rich guy who loves the product and doesn’t want to see it ruined by new owners. Through a series of events meant to show the father who would be a better custodian of his legacy (the son, Henri, is not interested in taking over) and rich, emotional subplots involving the loss of his wife, Henri’s mother, this movie rose above others for me. Not only was there chemistry between the male and female leads, but every character, including the butler, the concierge, and a very cute dog, meshed in a way seldom seen in rom-coms. This movie has it all ~ good writing, great characters, and a satisfying Happily Ever After.

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The Annual Holiday Lights

The third of The Five Blogs of Christmas is all about the lights and sparkle!

December is my least favorite month. The pressure of gift giving, which has dwindled to a precious few but can still induce anxiety. The constant bombardment of holiday sales, sales, sales/buy, buy, buy! The carb loading. The general expectation to be merry. And for the last few Decembers without The Mom, who adored Christmas, it’s painfully emotional.

But this dread of December isn’t new. Over a decade ago, I sat myself down and thought about what brought me holiday joy when I was a kid. And I remembered that touring neighborhoods of crazy Christmas decorations lit up my spirit like a cozy fireplace. Since then, nearly every year, we pick up our fave seasonal drinks (The Husband ~ Hot Vanilla, Me ~ Peppermint Hot Chocolate) and stroll around the Eagle Hills neighborhood in Brea (CA), to renew our Holiday Spirit and walk off those mini mince pies and Christmas cookies.

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A Little Holiday Reading

The second of The Five Blogs of Christmas is all about the books. Who doesn’t love a holiday romance?? Here’s a few I’ve read in the last few months, with additional recommendations in links below to past holiday reading fun.

I cried through the entire first chapter. Then I belly laughed through the second. Grace lost her husband to cancer in January, then she and her kids, Ian and Bella, adopted a dog on the way home from the funeral. Henry lost his wife in a plane crash in January and he hasn’t returned to their home in 10 months. Their mother’s scheme to get them together for a ridiculous, obvious meet cute. With the theme of holiday movies for each chapter, they grow closer in some ways, largely, in the beginning, because they understand completely what the other is going through. But Henry bonds with Ian, who’s trying to win an art contest at school. Bella’s a little harder to crack, like her mother. Both have near misses with other people. And they gradually begin the process of coming back to the real, painful world. There is so much honest, real chaos in both their lives, that the other makes better. Matthew Norman writes about the messiness of relationships, both romantic and platonic, with such ease. I highly recommend all of his books!

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Gingerbread Houses at The Cube

A few weeks ago, we visited the Hilbert Museum to view their special Christmas art exhibit. The artworks were challenging to photograph due to the glass protecting most of the paintings but here’s a selection of the ones with the least glare. They were all beautiful, though!

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Mazes and Hay Rides and Pumpkins, Oh My!

I’m always looking for new experiences nearby, here in Southern California, so when I saw a listing for the Tanaka Farms Hana Fields pumpkin patch in Costa Mesa, we had to give that a try. Jurassic-themed corn maze? Tractor hay rides? Pick your own pumpkin? And get to hand feed goats? Yes, please! Except for feeding goats, I’d never done any of those things, at least in recent memory.

We got our tickets for nearly half price on Groupon. I didn’t even know that Groupon was still a thing, but, Yay! We picked a day in the middle of the week and lucked out with a beautiful, clear sky and mild weather. If you’re in the So Cal area, it’s open till November 9.

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