Thursday Thoughts ~ June 18, 2026

Happy Juneteenth Eve! Oh, how I wish I could be at the opening of the Obama Presidential Center in Chicago tomorrow to see this portrait in person!!

The Obama’s with Njideka Akunyili Crosby, portraitist.

The Husband and I celebrated our 46th anniversary last Sunday. Being married this long creates such an enduring, varied, emotional, amazing history. You think 24 is all grown up, but really, we were such kids! Had a nice lunch at the Stonefire Grill, then saw the play, The Book of Will, at the Curtis Theatre in Brea, CA.

Us kids! Then…

And now!

In other news, I’m on a book buying moratorium for the summer. Let me walk you through my book buying history:

At one point, I had so many books, they took up not only shelf space on dedicated book shelves, they filled the kitchen cabinets! I spent years culling, giving them to thrift stores and friends of the library bookstores. I still believe that we don’t own books, we are just their custodians for a short period, until we pass them on to new readers. After a while, my kitchen shelves held only dishes and glassware again.

I’d buy a book here and there but mostly for the next few years, I happily took full advantage of my local library for books, audiobooks, and DVD’s. But then…

The Lockdown happened. The library developed a method to distribute books ~ you’d request a book or other material and they would arrange a time to leave it on a desk in the parking lot for you to pick up. Remember, in the early days, we wanted as little contact with other people as possible. SHOUT OUT to the librarians who helped keep us safe and sane in those scary bad days!

But even with those precautions, I started buying books again. I’m sure it was as much to self-soothe and give myself book mail (see previous post 😊) as much as acquiring reading material. Even though the lockdown is over and life is pretty much back to normal, other griefs and losses keep the self-soothing going. You wouldn’t believe how my serotonin is boosted by books with sprayed edges!!! My kitchen cabinets are safe but if we have a quake any time soon, we’ll need to be excavated from the book avalanche in our bedroom! Hence, the moratorium on book purchasing!

Not that I’ll make much of a dent in the piles this summer, but I had to make an effort, right??!!

PS-Ebooks are ok because they take up no space, except in my phone/Kindle ~ LOL!

Writing

The tweaking continues. That should be done very soon ~ like this weekend-soon. Then comes the line edits. I’m studying Good Writing by Anne Lamott and her current husband, Neal Allen. Cracks me up that she calls him her “current.” The book is set up with Neal presenting and elaborating a rule. Anne adds her two cents, which is usually funnier and more casual. He comes from a more formal, editorial background, while she is a more organic, imperfect writer. Both viewpoints are useful and valid and I will be using this info to make my book, The Bonus Grave, as good as it can be.

Reading

The Astral Library by Kate Quinn

Why I read it: The description of a library where you can live in a book!

Plot: I didn’t know quite what to expect from this book. It sets you up for one story – Alix is given the chance to escape her life (she’s just lost one of her three jobs, has been asked to move out by a jealous roommate, and has had her identity stolen) by the opportunity to pick a classic book to live in. But the story takes a turn when the library is attacked. The cranky librarian reluctantly enlists the aid of Alix, who in turn brings in her designer friend, Beau, and together they fight the bad guys. And there is a dragon. To elaborate would give away too much that I, for one, found a delight to discover.

What I liked: One, it was set in Boston, my old stomping grounds 😊 And such high stakes! The majority of the “Patrons” living in books were escaping abusers, so Alix found herself protecting people as much as the books themselves. And I love Alix! As a former foster kid, you have to root for her to finally find her people and her true place in the world. This book is magical!!!

PS-Yes, I read it in LARGE PRINT ~ LOL!!!

PPS-There is a very satisfying end to an evil book banner.

Streaming/Watching

Nobody Wants This           Netflix

I’m not a huge fan of Kristen Bell, but I have to say I love her in this series, playing a podcaster named Joanne. When she meets Noah, a rabbi played by Adam Brody, both their worlds and families collide. Her sister and fellow podcaster, Morgan, resents her falling in love, particularly because their show is built around bad dates and sex. Noah’s synagogue prefers only Jewish partners, and his family, his mother especially, is skeptical of the union. Other story lines include the girls’ parents – their slightly wacky mom who’s best friends with their gay dad – and Noah’s brother and sister-in-law, a couple who have an interesting relationship arc. What I really like about this show is that when they run into problems, they don’t just gloss over them, they aren’t shy about awkwardness, jealousy, and heartbreak. And I also like that in the first two seasons there were no will-they-or-won’t they-stay-together cliff hangers. Season three starts next month ~ yay!

Till next time, be good to yourself and each other!

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Delightful Book Mail!

I haven’t been so delighted with a mail delivery since Amazon sent me an order in a Marvelous Mrs. Maisel-themed box!

In early June, Edward Underhill, a trans author whose books I love, announced in his newsletter that he would be signing pre-orders of his newest book, The House of Now and Then, through Scribbles Bookshop, a signed copies only romance book store. I was bummed because I’d already pre-ordered it during a Barnes & Noble 25% off pre-order sale (raise your hand if you, too, keep a pre-order list in your phone…). But he went on to say that he’d also be signing all of his backlist. YAY!!! I own all of his previous books in paper, except his first book, Always the Almost, a queer YA story, which I’d gotten as an ebook, so I went from bummed to stoked in two seconds flat!

Yes, I really do get this excited over books 😊

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Thursday Thoughts ~ June 11, 2026

To all you Knott’s Berry Farm afficionado’s, Happy Ghost Town Alive Eve! IYKYK.

Once again, I’m initiating a once a week blog. They may be a bit shorter than before… And they might not be on the same day… We’ll see. I’m retired, therefore being on a schedule is not mandatory anymore LOL! But I do miss documenting all the stories in my life ~ my own, my writing, and other peoples’ writing and entertainment. So, here we go!

Beautiful flowers on our neighborhood walk.

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Bunches of Bubbles!

I would have sworn I wrote about this last year but I see no proof of this…

I love bubbles!!

After I dispense dish washing liquid onto a sponge, I squeeze the plastic container and shoot bubbles all over the kitchen. I currently have two tiny tubes of bubble juice and wands on the kitchen counter given as favors at a baby shower we attended in February. I use them when I need a lift or want to mess with the cat, LOL. Bubbles have always fascinated and delighted me.

So, why did it take me so long to buy tickets to the annual Bubblefest show at Discovery Cube in Santa Ana? For years, I would see the skyscraper-sized ads on the side of the Cube, beckoning me. You know how it is, though… you’ll get around to it someday. Well SOMEDAY was last year. And even though we were outnumbered by kids and surrounded by loudness from screaming and music, this curmudgeon loved it! And went back again for more this year.

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First Date Anniversary #48!!

Anybody else out there celebrate the anniversaries of your first date? We’ve celebrated all except one – I don’t recall what was going on that year, but I was gutted to realize we’d missed it. I mean, it’s exactly two weeks after The Husband’s birthday… I guarantee, we’ve never missed it since!

The Husband and I met during an acting class we attended on Hollywood Boulevard. Poor, young 20-somethings, we chose the Howard Johnson’s restaurant down the street for our first date. Below, is a picture (couldn’t find a photographer to credit) that I believe to be the actual restaurant, torn down years ago, because it was right near the Capitol Records building. And that was the beginning of our Happily Ever After!

PS-I had a tuna melt and I still own the outfit I wore that night. ‘Course, it will never fit me again ~ LOL!

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*Catching Up*

Holy Hearts and Shamrocks, Batman! It’s March!

Life’s been lifin’, so it’s been a while, kids. I think I’ll start with our latest museum visit and promise to catch up on reading, watching, and places we’ve been in posts I’ll get out to you soon.

I’m looking out the window right now and the trees are swaying and dancing, like fans at a Springsteen concert! It’s uber windy out there, so no walking at the park today. We did some miles on the treadmill at the gym this morning.

Yesterday morning, we managed to get out to our first writer’s meeting of the year (we were sick in January, then a downtown parade blocked our path in February ~ yes, we might have gotten there through back streets but… we didn’t 😊). So glad we got there today. Elle Jauffret, former lawyer and current mystery writer, gave an excellent talk on finding the “spine” of your book (the dramatic question that must be answered), how to keep that question top of mind throughout the story, and how to integrate different genres together organically.

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RELAX!!!

There are plenty of reasons to kick 2025 to the curb ~ heinous politics, health issues, book not published ~ but we also went to the first protests we’d ever participated in, made enjoyable use of our annual passes to the Discovery Cube, saw our friend, Robb Tracy, in THREE live shows, and walked thousands of steps at a nearby lake and at Knott’s Berry Farm. The Husband retired this year and that’s been an adjustment for both of us (I retired in 2022) but the freedom of not having to schedule around his job has been awesome. In short, 2025 coulda been worse so I’m grateful to make it out fairly unscathed.

Yeah, I’m a few days late to the New Year Party but it’s okay, especially since my word for this year is…

R*E*L*A*X

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What Mare Read in 2025

This year I read 79 books/novella’s, down quite a bit from last year. I spent a lot of time during the late summer and fall editing the book I’m writing, so that obliterated a chunk of my reading time… When I decided to do another revision on the book, all those hours spent on editing seemed like a waste, but I learned a lot about my own writing foibles, so not a total squandering of my time. The revising continues…

I keep lists of books I want to read everywhere ~ one on my phone Reminders list, one on the phone Notes, plus an Excel spreadsheet ~ LOL! The Reminders list is titled B&N and comes in handy when Barnes & Noble runs their 25% off pre-order sales, which are almost as exciting to me as the Scholastic book sales at school many moons ago. I love the anticipation of getting a new book in the mail weeks or months later ~ it’s always good to have something to look forward to! 😊 The 25% preorder sale is on now until 1/1/26, for B&N Rewards members.

I ran through the two Barnes & Noble book journals (See the 2024 post) I used to record and review the books I read, so I bought a pretty notebook (below, right). The journal only allowed one page per book, with specific information to fill out and a star rating system ~ not much room to write my thoughts. Since the notebook I’m using now is just simple, lined pages, I can write as much as I want about each book without squishing my writing and sometimes adding sticky notes. Loving the freedom! YAY!

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A Christmasier Christmas Than Usual!

Merry Christmas to all who celebrate! Happy Thursday for those who don’t! And thank you for your service to anyone who has to work today!

Welcome to the last of The Five Blogs of Christmas!

The few things we’ve done for Christmas in the last bunch of years have mainly been performative – I insist on a fresh wreath inside our front door for the beautiful smell and our annual trek around the crazy Christmas light neighborhood (Click here full post). Holiday music isn’t allowed until after Thanksgiving. Our only stab at decorating is a tiny pink tree that keeps its ornaments year-round.

But this year, I started the music on November 1. And a four-foot tree, woven with white lights, charmed us at a thrift store. All it needed was Hector, my 48-year-old furry angel topper (Click here for full post), so I thought.

But I found a few ornaments in a closet, one especially dear to my heart – Santa’s list, bought when we were first married, includes both of our names!

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Holiday Movie Recommendations

The fourth of The Five Blogs of Christmas is all about the movies.

I’ve been watching Christmas movies all through December, some new, some vintage. I’m leaving out the ones I gave less than four stars, ‘cause I sure can’t recommend duds! And remember, just like holiday books, it’s okay, even encouraged, to watch seasonal movies all year long!

Champagne Problems  2025

When Sydney is sent to Paris to secure the purchase of a prestigious family-owned champagne company, she spends an uncharacteristic night with a French book lover. Of course, he turns out to be the son of the owner of the company. But it’s not an advantage as she competes against a tough businesswoman, a German businessman (who gives a very different perspective on Die Hard, which is seen as a tragedy in Germany), and a sweetly flamboyant rich guy who loves the product and doesn’t want to see it ruined by new owners. Through a series of events meant to show the father who would be a better custodian of his legacy (the son, Henri, is not interested in taking over) and rich, emotional subplots involving the loss of his wife, Henri’s mother, this movie rose above others for me. Not only was there chemistry between the male and female leads, but every character, including the butler, the concierge, and a very cute dog, meshed in a way seldom seen in rom-coms. This movie has it all ~ good writing, great characters, and a satisfying Happily Ever After.

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