Thursday Thoughts ~ June 11, 2026

To all you Knott’s Berry Farm afficionado’s, Happy Ghost Town Alive Eve! IYKYK.

Once again, I’m initiating a once a week blog. They may be a bit shorter than before… And they might not be on the same day… We’ll see. I’m retired, therefore being on a schedule is not mandatory anymore LOL! But I do miss documenting all the stories in my life ~ my own, my writing, and other peoples’ writing and entertainment. So, here we go!

Beautiful flowers on our neighborhood walk.

Life’s been lifin’, as it always does. As some of you may know, The Husband has some medical issues, including Parkinson’s Disease. He has good days and bad days and life marches on. We try to stay busy, finding him some Parkinson’s and music related groups. Plus our once-a-month California Writer’s Club and my Sisters in Crime group that I recently rejoined. Also, finding time to get some exercise and have some fun!

Here’s a few pics of life around Casa Carter.

I hope this is what aliens look like! This little guy was on the edge of our trash can, which we didn’t close until he’d gone.

The Husband at the Scooby Doo exhibit at The Discovery Cube, Santa Ana, CA

The candle I light every time I use my laptop!

Gosling season!

Writing

I’m finally done with the final character/story revision on The Bonus Grave! Woo hoo! I’m going to go through once more with a checklist of updates, then it’s a full round of line edits (looking at each line to make sure each is as clear and concise as I can make them). I’ll be reading the new Anne Lamott/Neal Allen book, Good Writing, before I start the line edits, so I don’t miss anything 😊 Then onto all the other necessaries of self-publishing. It’s still gonna be a while, kids!

I created a newsletter on Substack last year but so far, haven’t launched it. Not sure how I can make it substantially different from this blog (although it will have way less pictures…). The main feature, for a writer/creator, is that a newsletter gathers a mailing list, which some people say is better than social media because if a particular platform fails, you’ve still got your mailing list of true fans. Still processing… I may start with a series to kick off the newsletter. Something like: Adventures of a Self-Published Debut. The link to sign up is at the bottom of this post, so be among the first to join!

Watching

I’m not usually a horror fan but I enjoyed The Boroughs on Netflix. I was initially drawn to the excellent cast, namely Alfre Woodard, Alfred Molina, and Bill Pullman, who play inhabitants of a Villages-like senior living community. When one of their friends dies, the hunt is on for the truth behind the monster who killed him. The Husband found it too dark, both figuratively and literally (the houses these people lived in were like caves, light-wise…), but I really liked how the story progressed. Lots of characters to hate ~ LOL ~ and a just-complicated-enough plotline to keep me guessing. And the end left it open for another potential season.

Reading

So many books to catch you up on, but here’s a recent favorite for now:

The Most Mysterious Bookshop in Paris by Mark Pryor

Why I read it: I read Pryors’ previous series, where his main character, Hugo Marston, worked security at the American Embassy in Paris. With this new book, Hugo has retired and is opening a mystery bookstore.

Plot: Hugo, in the midst of opening his new venture, is pulled back into investigation when an American citizen requests help from the Embassy. The chocolate factory he works for has been threatened with blackmail. The plot thickens when the blackmail is suddenly called off.

What I liked: Good plotting, lots of twists. Also, I love the trans police lieutenant he works with. Added new characters ~ Blake as his right hand man at the bookstore, and Moulin, a young police detective who has ties to the café next to Hugo’s bookshop and apparently also to a character in a trilogy of Pryor’s that takes place after WWII (I have them on order!).

Even if you haven’t read any of the original series, this can stand as a great read on its own.

Till sometime next week, be good to yourselves and each other!

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Bunches of Bubbles!

I would have sworn I wrote about this last year but I see no proof of this…

I love bubbles!!

After I dispense dish washing liquid onto a sponge, I squeeze the plastic container and shoot bubbles all over the kitchen. I currently have two tiny tubes of bubble juice and wands on the kitchen counter given as favors at a baby shower we attended in February. I use them when I need a lift or want to mess with the cat, LOL. Bubbles have always fascinated and delighted me.

So, why did it take me so long to buy tickets to the annual Bubblefest show at Discovery Cube in Santa Ana? For years, I would see the skyscraper-sized ads on the side of the Cube, beckoning me. You know how it is, though… you’ll get around to it someday. Well SOMEDAY was last year. And even though we were outnumbered by kids and surrounded by loudness from screaming and music, this curmudgeon loved it! And went back again for more this year.

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First Date Anniversary #48!!

Anybody else out there celebrate the anniversaries of your first date? We’ve celebrated all except one – I don’t recall what was going on that year, but I was gutted to realize we’d missed it. I mean, it’s exactly two weeks after The Husband’s birthday… I guarantee, we’ve never missed it since!

The Husband and I met during an acting class we attended on Hollywood Boulevard. Poor, young 20-somethings, we chose the Howard Johnson’s restaurant down the street for our first date. Below, is a picture (couldn’t find a photographer to credit) that I believe to be the actual restaurant, torn down years ago, because it was right near the Capitol Records building. And that was the beginning of our Happily Ever After!

PS-I had a tuna melt and I still own the outfit I wore that night. ‘Course, it will never fit me again ~ LOL!

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*Catching Up*

Holy Hearts and Shamrocks, Batman! It’s March!

Life’s been lifin’, so it’s been a while, kids. I think I’ll start with our latest museum visit and promise to catch up on reading, watching, and places we’ve been in posts I’ll get out to you soon.

I’m looking out the window right now and the trees are swaying and dancing, like fans at a Springsteen concert! It’s uber windy out there, so no walking at the park today. We did some miles on the treadmill at the gym this morning.

Yesterday morning, we managed to get out to our first writer’s meeting of the year (we were sick in January, then a downtown parade blocked our path in February ~ yes, we might have gotten there through back streets but… we didn’t 😊). So glad we got there today. Elle Jauffret, former lawyer and current mystery writer, gave an excellent talk on finding the “spine” of your book (the dramatic question that must be answered), how to keep that question top of mind throughout the story, and how to integrate different genres together organically.

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RELAX!!!

There are plenty of reasons to kick 2025 to the curb ~ heinous politics, health issues, book not published ~ but we also went to the first protests we’d ever participated in, made enjoyable use of our annual passes to the Discovery Cube, saw our friend, Robb Tracy, in THREE live shows, and walked thousands of steps at a nearby lake and at Knott’s Berry Farm. The Husband retired this year and that’s been an adjustment for both of us (I retired in 2022) but the freedom of not having to schedule around his job has been awesome. In short, 2025 coulda been worse so I’m grateful to make it out fairly unscathed.

Yeah, I’m a few days late to the New Year Party but it’s okay, especially since my word for this year is…

R*E*L*A*X

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What Mare Read in 2025

This year I read 79 books/novella’s, down quite a bit from last year. I spent a lot of time during the late summer and fall editing the book I’m writing, so that obliterated a chunk of my reading time… When I decided to do another revision on the book, all those hours spent on editing seemed like a waste, but I learned a lot about my own writing foibles, so not a total squandering of my time. The revising continues…

I keep lists of books I want to read everywhere ~ one on my phone Reminders list, one on the phone Notes, plus an Excel spreadsheet ~ LOL! The Reminders list is titled B&N and comes in handy when Barnes & Noble runs their 25% off pre-order sales, which are almost as exciting to me as the Scholastic book sales at school many moons ago. I love the anticipation of getting a new book in the mail weeks or months later ~ it’s always good to have something to look forward to! 😊 The 25% preorder sale is on now until 1/1/26, for B&N Rewards members.

I ran through the two Barnes & Noble book journals (See the 2024 post) I used to record and review the books I read, so I bought a pretty notebook (below, right). The journal only allowed one page per book, with specific information to fill out and a star rating system ~ not much room to write my thoughts. Since the notebook I’m using now is just simple, lined pages, I can write as much as I want about each book without squishing my writing and sometimes adding sticky notes. Loving the freedom! YAY!

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A Christmasier Christmas Than Usual!

Merry Christmas to all who celebrate! Happy Thursday for those who don’t! And thank you for your service to anyone who has to work today!

Welcome to the last of The Five Blogs of Christmas!

The few things we’ve done for Christmas in the last bunch of years have mainly been performative – I insist on a fresh wreath inside our front door for the beautiful smell and our annual trek around the crazy Christmas light neighborhood (Click here full post). Holiday music isn’t allowed until after Thanksgiving. Our only stab at decorating is a tiny pink tree that keeps its ornaments year-round.

But this year, I started the music on November 1. And a four-foot tree, woven with white lights, charmed us at a thrift store. All it needed was Hector, my 48-year-old furry angel topper (Click here for full post), so I thought.

But I found a few ornaments in a closet, one especially dear to my heart – Santa’s list, bought when we were first married, includes both of our names!

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Holiday Movie Recommendations

The fourth of The Five Blogs of Christmas is all about the movies.

I’ve been watching Christmas movies all through December, some new, some vintage. I’m leaving out the ones I gave less than four stars, ‘cause I sure can’t recommend duds! And remember, just like holiday books, it’s okay, even encouraged, to watch seasonal movies all year long!

Champagne Problems  2025

When Sydney is sent to Paris to secure the purchase of a prestigious family-owned champagne company, she spends an uncharacteristic night with a French book lover. Of course, he turns out to be the son of the owner of the company. But it’s not an advantage as she competes against a tough businesswoman, a German businessman (who gives a very different perspective on Die Hard, which is seen as a tragedy in Germany), and a sweetly flamboyant rich guy who loves the product and doesn’t want to see it ruined by new owners. Through a series of events meant to show the father who would be a better custodian of his legacy (the son, Henri, is not interested in taking over) and rich, emotional subplots involving the loss of his wife, Henri’s mother, this movie rose above others for me. Not only was there chemistry between the male and female leads, but every character, including the butler, the concierge, and a very cute dog, meshed in a way seldom seen in rom-coms. This movie has it all ~ good writing, great characters, and a satisfying Happily Ever After.

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The Annual Holiday Lights

The third of The Five Blogs of Christmas is all about the lights and sparkle!

December is my least favorite month. The pressure of gift giving, which has dwindled to a precious few but can still induce anxiety. The constant bombardment of holiday sales, sales, sales/buy, buy, buy! The carb loading. The general expectation to be merry. And for the last few Decembers without The Mom, who adored Christmas, it’s painfully emotional.

But this dread of December isn’t new. Over a decade ago, I sat myself down and thought about what brought me holiday joy when I was a kid. And I remembered that touring neighborhoods of crazy Christmas decorations lit up my spirit like a cozy fireplace. Since then, nearly every year, we pick up our fave seasonal drinks (The Husband ~ Hot Vanilla, Me ~ Peppermint Hot Chocolate) and stroll around the Eagle Hills neighborhood in Brea (CA), to renew our Holiday Spirit and walk off those mini mince pies and Christmas cookies.

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A Little Holiday Reading

The second of The Five Blogs of Christmas is all about the books. Who doesn’t love a holiday romance?? Here’s a few I’ve read in the last few months, with additional recommendations in links below to past holiday reading fun.

I cried through the entire first chapter. Then I belly laughed through the second. Grace lost her husband to cancer in January, then she and her kids, Ian and Bella, adopted a dog on the way home from the funeral. Henry lost his wife in a plane crash in January and he hasn’t returned to their home in 10 months. Their mother’s scheme to get them together for a ridiculous, obvious meet cute. With the theme of holiday movies for each chapter, they grow closer in some ways, largely, in the beginning, because they understand completely what the other is going through. But Henry bonds with Ian, who’s trying to win an art contest at school. Bella’s a little harder to crack, like her mother. Both have near misses with other people. And they gradually begin the process of coming back to the real, painful world. There is so much honest, real chaos in both their lives, that the other makes better. Matthew Norman writes about the messiness of relationships, both romantic and platonic, with such ease. I highly recommend all of his books!

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